'I have to explain to social services that I'm not a prostitute' King's Lynn financial dominatrix speaks out on the misrepresentation of her work
A Lynn mother of two who has weekly visits from social services has to 're-explain' that her job in the financial dominatrix industry is 'not prostitution' after being reported to child protective services.
Ally,29, advertised on social media site Twitter as a findom or financial dominatrix. A findom is someone who dominates men to obtain cash, much like the dynamic between a sexual dominant and submissive.
The dominatrix will ask the submissive to send money, and the submissive obliges.
Many sites like AVN, which has now been shut down, were home to findoms and a safe place for submissives to explore their fantasies.
Globally, financial domination has proven lucrative for many women, and has boomed in recent years alongside subscription sites such as OnlyFans.
Ally, second name withheld, said she was reported after advertising for a 'cash-meet' after the term was mistakenly thought to be linked to prostitution.
She said: "I've now had to stop advertising and get a vanilla job. A cash meet has nothing to do with sex, it's where you meet a client for cash. Social services come to my home and I have to explain again and again what I do.
"My children are nowhere near me when I do anything like this, they are either not present or at school, they are not in danger at all."
Ally, who came across the industry a few years ago, is known as Empress Diamond online and likes to be called 'Empress' by clients.
She said: "It has been empowering for me and boosted my confidence, why judge? Everyone has their kinks whether it's feet or whatever else. A lot of people in positions of power like to be dominated to unwind. It's like a form of fantasy to take away the responsibility for a few hours. I only take video calls when they are asleep or a I pre-make my content when they are away.
"Social services has an issue with the fact that I may be doing this in front of the children but it simply isn't the case. The person who has reported me will look on my Twitter and find something new to report. It's so frustrating as I know I'm not doing anything wrong in terms of endangering my children.
"I've been accused of all sorts, even allowing random men around my children - the person who reported me didn't reach out to ask me about any of this, they just told social services and all their friends and family."
Norfolk County Council have been contacted for comment on the changing landscape of sex work, female work and what this means for women with children.
